Adulting describes being an adult as nothing more than an unwanted action or hobby rather that it being part of the natural progression that comes with growing up.
According to Oxford dictionaries, the meaning of the term Adulting is the practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially the accomplishment of mundane but necessary tasks. Basically, you accept that you’ve entered the realm of adulthood and the responsibilities that come with it- these are the things that have to be done regardless if you want to or not.
I find this statement relatable and acceptable only when I started working after graduating from college in 2017, it was like life dropped a bomb on me in the form of boring and rudimentary work that seemed too grueling to do- plus the bills that I had to pay because I was now an adult with a paying job no less.
It seemed like after college you were suddenly struck with the notion that having more real-world responsibilities was nothing but a hassle and an unwanted obligation rather than accepting that it was part of the natural course of growing up.
The term adulting seemed fine to me at the beginning because of the fact that I too believed that adulting was incredibly hard and every time that I lined up to pay my bills I would roll my eyes and sigh “Adulting sucks” I would even post to social media that I was in the middle of “adulting”. An act in which I realize was entirely WRONG, now I’m grateful that I gained a much better and wiser perspective on the subject.
However, my perspective gradually started to change as I got used to the new chapter of my life, I realized that having more responsibilities is natural as you grow and mature. There are a lot of misconceptions about what adulthood is and what it comprises of, a popular article comes from Huffington Post that you can read about here.
Adulting started to boom as a popular slang word during the past year, during which the term “adulting” has increased in usage by 700 percent on Twitter. More or less you’ve probably seen tweets of people doing perfectly normal things with the #adulting, things like doing the laundry #adulting, cooking dinner #adulting, etc.
I personally give humorous props to the DailyMail, who took no prisoners in throwing shade when the #adulting trended on Twitter. It’s upsetting that a lot of young people see growing up as nothing more than a tedious routine of tasks and responsibilities that they just have to do- it’s this immaturity that reduces being a proper grown up into nothing more than an unwanted hobby.
If you’re just going to work to brag about being an adult, stop and think if you can really handle what it means to be a grown-up. You’re not entitled to receive praise if you choose to check e-mails during leisure time or do your laundry before the water runs out.
Adulting is a degrading term that implies entitlement and it undermines your capability and talents. Imagine if you saw your mother washing the dishes like she always does, should she be wearing a “Too busy adulting right now” shirt?.
Many of us are incredibly privileged that we grew up without the hardships and burdens that our older generations had no choice but to face. We came home to a fully stocked fridge, clean clothes in our closets, extra pocket money to burn, everything that we take for granted and only realizes how good it was only when it’s gone.
People who were shielded from basic responsibilities like cooking or cleaning will likely go through this adulting phase, and it’s not anyone’s fault. It’s just a matter of gaining a better perspective that we can check “adulting” into retirement, growing up may feel optional for many but in time everyone will understand what being a proper adult is all about.
Being an adult isn’t a matter of age. It’s a matter of responsibility.